Relationships and Schizophrenia/Schizoaffective Disorder
In this video, I talk about relationships and schizophrenia and schizoaffective disorder. My partner Rob, also joins me for a portion of the video and together we …
I have PTSD and panic attacks and anxiett that is severe im.medicated by benzos but now the FDA is making doctors lives miserable with a med like benzos… im scared. And recently fell in love with a schitzoeffective male who doesnt want medicine… theres no time for me…..for whatever reason it didnt go well for him…. i need a rob but he needs a girl rob it seems….. is this relationship relalistic. Im.dead in tears im never gonna get the comfort i need. What i need is small… i may have a slight mood disorder or really hard life circumstances. Cuz when i wasnt a single mom second time recovering Dv….in povety with dead family supports still alive i has almost no mood issue. Please give me something to go on ecen kf ita something indont want ro hear it. I dont know if u even have knowledge of ptsd
Schizophrenia is nothing to be afraid of. Love and compassion go's a long way in helping the affected person. A strong family unit helps as well. My son has Schizophrenia and is a huge softy. He takes his meds and is married. They will never have kid's though. He is quite chaotic and can be disengaged at times, also he can come across as quite flat mood wise. But actually this is just a symptom that he in my opinion is quite unawhere of. If I ask him if he's ok and happy. He say's I am. I give him space as he likes his alone time playing electric guitar etc! He is highly intelligent with a degree. He takes his meds and makes the most of life. We need to eradicate the stigma of it all.
Thanks for the video im trying to figure out how to help my bf and this guy is great the way he looks at u …u can see love all in his heart how sweet….💞 God bless u both may u both stag well stay positive ans stay strong in Jesus name Amen.
I have Schizoaffective Bipolar 1 with PTSD and I have to say, it has been a LONG journey, and sometimes very painful. I think everything you say here, is spot on! You give me hope that I can have a romantic relationship that isn't abusive or ends in neglect… I've been very discouraged after my 8-month LDR relationship was met with a lot of abuse & codependency… cheers to being an intelligent, revolutionary young woman with a golden heart… I hope everything continues to go well in your romantic and everyday life!! <3333
But yeah, I feel as though having the 3 heaviest labels kinda makes my life EXTREMELY difficult at times, not gonna lie. But we're the proof that people with Schizoaffective can live intelligent, easygoing lives and hold down a job, an income, and even a career path. I'm not going to give up!!!
I just discovered your channel the other day. Both of my parents have a schizophrenia diagnosis, my mom has schizoaffective disorder and my dad had schizophrenia. It's been very helpful to hear your story. I hope more people can understand this disorder and illness and move away from the stigma. 🦋😊
you are very lucky to have rob.it is not easy to find someone having problems.expesually being a man on aish living with parents.as I am unable to live on my own or take care of myself on my own.you are lucky.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. One of my ex was diagnosed with schizophrenia. I had no idea what that meant at the time. A big part of me wishes I had more knowledge and understanding of the disease at the time. She'd have these episodes where I had no idea what she was talking about or why she was so upset. Looking back I can only imagine how helpless and alone she must have felt, me being there but not having a clue how to be supportive and help her through it. Thank you for posting your videos. Very educational.
My wife was bipolar and stopped taking her meds 2 months ago. She suddenly went totally berserk and claimed everyone was plotting against her, using her, and all kinds of delusional stuff. She just took off and left me and our 10 year old daughter her alone and we don't even know where she went. I think she is schizophrenic and just had a paranoid break. She thinks all her delusions are real after being in a loving relationship for over 10 years. Im at a total loss because now that she's off her meds she refuses to even believe she was ever bipolar and now scitso. You cannot reason with someone like that at all
It's obvious you are very intelligent and well read. Does this help with keeping up with self care? As well, it's incredibly obvious you are very brave. So much so, you are a bit of a hero to me.
Thanks for opening up about the disorder. You are doing a service to the rest of the world…especially others who may be affected, and those who are in daily contact with them.
Thank you so much for sharing, wow! You truly helped me view this in a different form but I also feel your breaking barriers from stigma. It takes a lot to do this, I wish more people would open up on mental health. Thank you so much for your channel. Please keep making more.
So do you have both schizophrenia and schizoaffective? Doctors say it is wrong to say schizoaffective is just a combo of bipolar and schizophrenia but if you have both why add schizophrenia since psychosis comes with schizoaffective and can with bipolar. Maybe since disordered mood has to occur together with psychosis in schizoaffective and you don't always have that but also independent psychosis? Thx.
Taking medication with schizoaffective/schizophrenia is not a question of choice, it's a question of responsibility. You have hurt enough people with your death attempts and you're accountable for that. The least you could do is think of those who love you and want you all in one piece. Where's their choice to be happy with you?
Please do a video about parenting struggles and coping you and your partner utilize. I have a young child and my partner has Schizophrenia it would be a huge help to know what unique challenges you might face and how you cope with them.
SCHIZOPHRENIA AND WITH OTHER MENTAL ISSUES START OFF AS DEMONIC INFLUENCES. WHICH WE ALL HAVE THROUGHOUT OUR LIFETIME. THEN ONCE YOU TAKE THE ANTIDEPRESSANT AND OTHER SCHIZOPHRENIC DRUGS THEY TURN YOUR BRAIN INTO SCREAMED EGGS. I'M 58 AND I REMEMBER AS A CHILD BACK IN THE 1960'S BEING TOLD THAT DEMONS ROAM THE MENTAL INSTITUTIONS TORMENTING THE SOULS AND MINDS OF PEOPLE. 50 YEARS LATER WITH FACE TO FACE EXPERIENCE 27 YEARS AGO WITH SATAN, HOW TRUE THOSE WORDS WERE BACK THEN AS A CHILD THAT THE ALMIGHTY GOD INSTILLED IN ME TO REFLECT WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE WORLD TODAY. START A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND STAY AWAY FROM THESE ANTIDEPRESSANTS BECAUSE THEY ARE THE WORK OF THE DEVIL SATAN.
I think one of the hardest challenges for the partner of a person with mental illness is…. Not knowing when your partner is being difficult because they are having symptoms, or if they are just being a jerk/difficult because that's who they are, when not having symptoms. Nobody is perfect all the time, so we should have tolerance/compassion/forgiveness for a certain amount of "bad behavior", but not knowing when it is caused by mental illness or not, makes this complicated.
How you should respond to bad behavior, depends of what is causing it. If you don't know what is causing it, how can you respond properly?
On further reflection, maybe we should have compassion/forgiveness, no matter what it is, that causes people to act badly.
Thanks very much for sharing your experiences.It helps. I was in a relationship, for about 5 years, with a partner who has schizoaffective disorder. We were together 3 years, before she told me about it.
It is my way, to be open minded, caring, and understanding of other peoples differences. Before I knew, I tried to be kind/supportive, but was confused/concerned by the illogical behavior, and emotions. One of the ways this would manifest, is for her to get angry at me, for reasons that did not make sense to me. When she was symptom free, she was very logical/kind/loving to me. When she was having symptoms, I could do nothing right.
We went to couples therapy, and learned good things, but she would still get mad when symptomatic. It was a year later, before she told me about her illness, and went to the Dr. for help. That helped, but by then we had bad habits/feelings, from before I knew. We were together for another 2 years, before we ended our relationship. We are still friends.
I wish she had told me about it early in our relationship, but I think she was in denial about it too. She had been hospitalized before she met me, and had bad experiences with treatment,. When she got out, and was able to function without medication, she went on with her life. Though she could function, the illness still affected her. I wish I had better tools for understanding/coping, right from the beginning of our relationship. I also think a support group would have helped.
In the end, I was no longer able to cope with being told I was why she was upset, even when I knew it was the illness. I was not strong enough, and did not have support and skills, to be happy in our relationship. I could not accept, that I was not able to reason with her, talk her out of her illness, help her feel better.
In spite of, and partially because of, her illness, she is a great person, with lots of admirable talents and accomplishments, and I wish her the best that life can offer.
It takes a strong person, with unshakable self confidence and compassion, to be in a relationship with a partner who often challenges your reality, Understanding helps. knowing earlier, helps prevent bad relationship patterns, from becoming ingrained, and having to be unlearned.
Best wishes to all the lovers in the world. The world needs more love and understanding.
My husband disclosed to me very early on when we were getting to know each other that he took medication for schizophrenia. I remember already being into him and thinking, "This is the one" so when he told me this I was shocked and thought, "WHAT!?? I finally meet someone and he's got schizophrenia???" But that lasted a few seconds and then I moved on. I fell deeply in love and here we are now, 11 years later, and we are married and have a child. I am so glad I didn't rule out being with someone with this diagnosis because I would have missed out on the best thing ever.
Rob seems like such a lovely bloke . Intelligent , sound , and deeply loving . I have just discovered your channel today . I love your forthright way of speaking . Bringing your experiences out and sharing them . 🙏
I have PTSD and panic attacks and anxiett that is severe im.medicated by benzos but now the FDA is making doctors lives miserable with a med like benzos… im scared. And recently fell in love with a schitzoeffective male who doesnt want medicine… theres no time for me…..for whatever reason it didnt go well for him…. i need a rob but he needs a girl rob it seems….. is this relationship relalistic. Im.dead in tears im never gonna get the comfort i need. What i need is small… i may have a slight mood disorder or really hard life circumstances. Cuz when i wasnt a single mom second time recovering Dv….in povety with dead family supports still alive i has almost no mood issue. Please give me something to go on ecen kf ita something indont want ro hear it. I dont know if u even have knowledge of ptsd
Schizophrenia is nothing to be afraid of. Love and compassion go's a long way in helping the affected person. A strong family unit helps as well. My son has Schizophrenia and is a huge softy. He takes his meds and is married. They will never have kid's though. He is quite chaotic and can be disengaged at times, also he can come across as quite flat mood wise. But actually this is just a symptom that he in my opinion is quite unawhere of. If I ask him if he's ok and happy. He say's I am. I give him space as he likes his alone time playing electric guitar etc! He is highly intelligent with a degree. He takes his meds and makes the most of life. We need to eradicate the stigma of it all.
Thanks for the video im trying to figure out how to help my bf and this guy is great the way he looks at u …u can see love all in his heart how sweet….💞 God bless u both may u both stag well stay positive ans stay strong in Jesus name Amen.
I just want to tell you: pscychology is really just a lot of re-labeling stuff.
this is rob
You guys are amazing. Both of you. That’s all. 🙂
I have Schizoaffective Bipolar 1 with PTSD and I have to say, it has been a LONG journey, and sometimes very painful. I think everything you say here, is spot on! You give me hope that I can have a romantic relationship that isn't abusive or ends in neglect… I've been very discouraged after my 8-month LDR relationship was met with a lot of abuse & codependency… cheers to being an intelligent, revolutionary young woman with a golden heart… I hope everything continues to go well in your romantic and everyday life!! <3333
But yeah, I feel as though having the 3 heaviest labels kinda makes my life EXTREMELY difficult at times, not gonna lie. But we're the proof that people with Schizoaffective can live intelligent, easygoing lives and hold down a job, an income, and even a career path. I'm not going to give up!!!
Good man
What if your potential partner has anosognosia? This extra layer of complexity is often forgotten. The man I care about suffers from that.
That was so adorable
I just discovered your channel the other day. Both of my parents have a schizophrenia diagnosis, my mom has schizoaffective disorder and my dad had schizophrenia. It's been very helpful to hear your story. I hope more people can understand this disorder and illness and move away from the stigma. 🦋😊
Rob is a lucky and likable guy.
my girlfriend is in my dreams at night and that makes me happy.
you are very lucky to have rob.it is not easy to find someone having problems.expesually being a man on aish living with parents.as I am unable to live on my own or take care of myself on my own.you are lucky.
He looks like the host from the MTV show catfish nev
How do I tell everyone that ask me what I do for a living when I don't work because of my schizophrenia
I dropped acid and haven’t been the same since
You guys look great together but I honestly think I would have an issue with being referred to as "my current partner".
Hmm
Thank you for sharing your experiences. One of my ex was diagnosed with schizophrenia. I had no idea what that meant at the time. A big part of me wishes I had more knowledge and understanding of the disease at the time. She'd have these episodes where I had no idea what she was talking about or why she was so upset. Looking back I can only imagine how helpless and alone she must have felt, me being there but not having a clue how to be supportive and help her through it. Thank you for posting your videos. Very educational.
My wife was bipolar and stopped taking her meds 2 months ago. She suddenly went totally berserk and claimed everyone was plotting against her, using her, and all kinds of delusional stuff. She just took off and left me and our 10 year old daughter her alone and we don't even know where she went. I think she is schizophrenic and just had a paranoid break. She thinks all her delusions are real after being in a loving relationship for over 10 years. Im at a total loss because now that she's off her meds she refuses to even believe she was ever bipolar and now scitso. You cannot reason with someone like that at all
I don't even what to meet people. Why you insist on this??
People "you've heard".
Wtf¿?? We are not all equal.
It's obvious you are very intelligent and well read. Does this help with keeping up with self care?
As well, it's incredibly obvious you are very brave. So much so, you are a bit of a hero to me.
Thanks for opening up about the disorder. You are doing a service to the rest of the world…especially others who may be affected, and those who are in daily contact with them.
Thanks for being a hero~!
Overthinking I accept you your a good person
The sex was way better with my girl when she was OFF her meds.
🙂
Thank you so much for sharing, wow! You truly helped me view this in a different form but I also feel your breaking barriers from stigma. It takes a lot to do this, I wish more people would open up on mental health. Thank you so much for your channel. Please keep making more.
So do you have both schizophrenia and schizoaffective? Doctors say it is wrong to say schizoaffective is just a combo of bipolar and schizophrenia but if you have both why add schizophrenia since psychosis comes with schizoaffective and can with bipolar. Maybe since disordered mood has to occur together with psychosis in schizoaffective and you don't always have that but also independent psychosis? Thx.
Taking medication with schizoaffective/schizophrenia is not a question of choice, it's a question of responsibility. You have hurt enough people with your death attempts and you're accountable for that. The least you could do is think of those who love you and want you all in one piece. Where's their choice to be happy with you?
Please do a video about parenting struggles and coping you and your partner utilize.
I have a young child and my partner has Schizophrenia it would be a huge help to know what unique challenges you might face and how you cope with them.
I thought antipsychotics made you obese.
Lauren and Rob, sitting in a tree, k i s s i n g. LoL I'm happy for the both of you, this is very positive.
SCHIZOPHRENIA AND WITH OTHER MENTAL ISSUES START OFF AS DEMONIC INFLUENCES. WHICH WE ALL HAVE THROUGHOUT OUR LIFETIME. THEN ONCE YOU TAKE THE ANTIDEPRESSANT AND OTHER SCHIZOPHRENIC DRUGS THEY TURN YOUR BRAIN INTO SCREAMED EGGS. I'M 58 AND I REMEMBER AS A CHILD BACK IN THE 1960'S BEING TOLD THAT DEMONS ROAM THE MENTAL INSTITUTIONS TORMENTING THE SOULS AND MINDS OF PEOPLE. 50 YEARS LATER WITH FACE TO FACE EXPERIENCE 27 YEARS AGO WITH SATAN, HOW TRUE THOSE WORDS WERE BACK THEN AS A CHILD THAT THE ALMIGHTY GOD INSTILLED IN ME TO REFLECT WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE WORLD TODAY. START A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND STAY AWAY FROM THESE ANTIDEPRESSANTS BECAUSE THEY ARE THE WORK OF THE DEVIL SATAN.
Your babies would have the best teeth
You know you are so brave. You are doing something good. Be very blessed you 2! ✌💕🌼
Open comunication, yes. Thank you for reminder.👍
I think one of the hardest challenges for the partner of a person with mental illness is….
Not knowing when your partner is being difficult because they are having symptoms, or if they are just being a jerk/difficult because that's who they are, when not having symptoms.
Nobody is perfect all the time, so we should have tolerance/compassion/forgiveness for a certain amount of "bad behavior", but not knowing when it is caused by mental illness or not, makes this complicated.
How you should respond to bad behavior, depends of what is causing it.
If you don't know what is causing it, how can you respond properly?
On further reflection, maybe we should have compassion/forgiveness, no matter what it is, that causes people to act badly.
Thanks very much for sharing your experiences.It helps.
I was in a relationship, for about 5 years, with a partner who has schizoaffective disorder.
We were together 3 years, before she told me about it.
It is my way, to be open minded, caring, and understanding of other peoples differences.
Before I knew, I tried to be kind/supportive, but was confused/concerned by the illogical behavior, and emotions.
One of the ways this would manifest, is for her to get angry at me, for reasons that did not make sense to me.
When she was symptom free, she was very logical/kind/loving to me.
When she was having symptoms, I could do nothing right.
We went to couples therapy, and learned good things, but she would still get mad when symptomatic.
It was a year later, before she told me about her illness, and went to the Dr. for help.
That helped, but by then we had bad habits/feelings, from before I knew.
We were together for another 2 years, before we ended our relationship. We are still friends.
I wish she had told me about it early in our relationship, but I think she was in denial about it too.
She had been hospitalized before she met me, and had bad experiences with treatment,.
When she got out, and was able to function without medication, she went on with her life.
Though she could function, the illness still affected her.
I wish I had better tools for understanding/coping,
right from the beginning of our relationship.
I also think a support group would have helped.
In the end, I was no longer able to cope with being told I was why she was upset, even when I knew it was the illness.
I was not strong enough, and did not have support and skills, to be happy in our relationship.
I could not accept, that I was not able to reason with her, talk her out of her illness, help her feel better.
In spite of, and partially because of, her illness, she is a great person, with lots of admirable talents and accomplishments, and I wish her the best that life can offer.
It takes a strong person, with unshakable self confidence and compassion, to be in a relationship with a partner who often challenges your reality,
Understanding helps.
knowing earlier, helps prevent bad relationship patterns, from becoming ingrained, and having to be unlearned.
Best wishes to all the lovers in the world.
The world needs more love and understanding.
"partner" lol, oh geez.
My husband disclosed to me very early on when we were getting to know each other that he took medication for schizophrenia. I remember already being into him and thinking, "This is the one" so when he told me this I was shocked and thought, "WHAT!?? I finally meet someone and he's got schizophrenia???" But that lasted a few seconds and then I moved on. I fell deeply in love and here we are now, 11 years later, and we are married and have a child. I am so glad I didn't rule out being with someone with this diagnosis because I would have missed out on the best thing ever.
Could you suggest some therapist and psychiatrists in Berlin? Or any leads would be really helpful. Thank you
He seems great. Take those meds……especially because of kids.
Rob seems like such a lovely bloke . Intelligent , sound , and deeply loving . I have just discovered your channel today . I love your forthright way of speaking . Bringing your experiences out and sharing them . 🙏
does she know that her bf is gay?